The pressure of being a male in today’s society is cut-throat, having to conform to a certain body type, a certain ‘way’ of looking.
I’ve never really been body confident… but is anyone these days?
I’ve always had issues with the way I look, I’ve never really felt like I look good – I know we all feel this way.
You see these gym goers flexing their muscles…. whilst you’re tucking into 20 chicken nuggets from McDonalds.
Do we conform to society? I’ve struggled with my weight, I’m either too skinny or too fat. There is no in-between. As a male I feel such a pressure to look a certain way, if I don’t look that certain way, there is no interest.
Why do I feel like this? What is attractive? Correct me if I’m wrong but I’ve never seen an overweight guy on the front of a magazine. And that sucks. Because it sends off the message that if you’re not the ‘magazine type’, you’re not worth celebrating.
Why do we paint a perfect picture of something that isn’t everyone’s version of perfection?
You may think that it’s only women who feel the pressure of weighing a certain weight or looking a certain way, but men feel this way too.
What makes a person ‘attractive’? People say it’s not just about how someone looks. I agree its not – but i’ll be damned if I haven’t been judged by my appearance in my life.
You can go through life thinking that as long as you’re happy it doesn’t matter, but this isn’t the way it is for me.
I feel the pressure to look a certain way. I will avoid looking at myself in the mirror because I don’t want to see what’s staring back at me.
And deep down, I know this isn’t healthy. Deep down, I know I need to talk about it.
In fact, I know all men who feel this way about their bodies need to talk about it. And I feel the time to start talking is now.
Words by James Conlon